The most important words you will ever hear!

I was praying about what topic to teach on from time to time.  There are three subjects on  my heart that I would like to share with you.  One relates to feeling good about yourself without any condemnation.  The second one is bible guidelines on correct interpretation of bible prophecy and all other scripture.  The third is end-time prophecy and how it relates to our lives today.  So, this week I will start off with being kind to yourself. 

The most important words ever spoken to you did not come from your parents, siblings, teachers, classmates or anyone else.  The most important words you will ever hear come from your own mouth.  What you say to yourself and think about yourself sets the course for your future.

Medical science tells us that the thalamus gland controls all the other glands in the body.  If you are afraid, the thalamus gland notifies the your body to release adrenalin to give you extra strength to face a fearful situation.  Too much adrenalin produced from traumatic situations can effect the health of you body.  When your body produces serotonin you feel happy and peaceful about life

Medical science also tells us that the thalamus gland will respond to a voice command, but only a command from your voice!  Therefore, what you say to yourself about yourself can cause healing or sickness.  Your words will make you happy and feel good about yourself and life or they can make life sad, boring, and hardly worth living.  

Here's a testimony from my book entitled, "Do You Believe You Deserve To Be Happy?"

             What if, as a kid, you were told by either parents or other kids in school, things like: “you’re stupid, you’ll never amount to anything,” “you can’t do that,” “you’re just a kid, what do you know,” or “you don’t have the brains God gave a louse.”  How do you think that would affect your performance in life as you became an adult?  I think you’re seeing what a problem this could be, aren’t you?
 

I have a friend name Tom who loves to play golf.  He’s in his sixties.  He and his friends play for a little money to make the game more challenging.  Tom is so good, he wins quite often.  One day he was the leading scorer until the last hole.  He messed up on the 18^th hole so bad that he lost the game.  When he got alone in the car on the way home he began to vent his anger.  He would yell and swear at himself for missing out on the $100 winner’s prize.  Guess what he did the next time he played golf?  He was starting to win, but messed up on the last four holes.  He lost again.  I asked him, “If you were teaching someone to play golf and yelled at them like that when they messed up, what kind of golfer would they become?”  He said, “They would never become a good golfer.  They would not have any confidence because I would have destroyed all of it.”  I said, “You will always mess up because you’re too hard on yourself.  You have become your own worst enemy.  Your words are very harsh when you speak to yourself.  In James 1:26 it says if a person does not bridle his tongue he will deceive his own heart.  Subconsciously you will sabotage your own efforts to succeed.

I encouraged Tom to talk to himself just like he would a talented pro.  “Tom,” I said, “Talk to yourself and say something like, ‘Well, you had a bad day today, everybody has one of those from time to time.  But, you know you are better than that.  Your past performance demonstrates the talent you truly have.  Just don’t be discouraged and lose your focus.  The next time you’ll be relaxed and beat everybody.’ ” 

 I’ve been a spiritual mentor to Tom for many years, so he respected me enough to follow my advice.  The very next week he played his best game.  He won three awards ($$) that day.  The first award was for winning the game.  The second award ($$) was for having the lowest score of the day.  And the third award ($$) was for hitting a hole-in-one.

 The Golf Club had a monthly newsletter.  They not only printed the results of his remarkable game, but they also mentioned how he used to be an alcoholic with a bad temper.  Now they reported his testimony of becoming a Christian, and that the change was evident.  He was ecstatic to say the least.

 You have to forgive yourself and encourage yourself or you will continue to dislike yourself or even worse, hate yourself!” 

 We are always quick to criticize ourselves when we make a mistake, but do you ever praise yourself when you do well?  You probably don’t.  You’ve might have been told that would be pride.  Of course, that would depend on your motive.  If you are bragging, it would be pride.  However, if you are alone and are just encouraging yourself, that would be wisdom.  Feeling good about yourself is not pride.  In Samuel 30:6 it says that King David encouraged himself in the Lord.  He became self-motivated.  That is how you build confidence. This is a very attractive quality in any person.  People feel safe around someone who displays self-confidence.

Be the best friend you ever had.  If you loose that friendship, you will need to do everything within your power to get it back.  Learn to forgive yourself.  If you don't have a good relationship with yourself, all the bible reading, motivational speakers, or best sermons cannot help you receive anything good in life.  You are the apple of God's eye.  He does not condemn you.  Self-love is not only critical, but completely necessary for a happy well-balance life.

(This book is available on Amazon.com in e-book form.  Soon to be in print.)